Staying Silent While My Husband Speaks for Me

I love it when I don’t have to give my order to the server because he speaks up for me. I love it when I am in social situations (and getting tired or stressed), and he puts his arm around me and takes over the conversation. When I need to say no (something that in some situations is hard to do) and he speaks up for me and gives the other person a no, my heart melts. When I am in an awkward situation and he handles the conversation, I feel so loved.

I am an introvert. I am also someone who is easily stressed and frequently not doing well. I appreciate my strong husband doing conversations for me so that all I have to do is smile, be gracious, and rest. Submission and submissiveness permeate every aspect of your life and your being if you practice it for a long time. I used to be so loud all the time. Now I feel softer and more at peace. Home and family are my little world, and I’m happy with that. I only leave my safe haven of quietness when I am with people I trust or feel comfortable with, and at times when I really want to speak. I chat my friend L’s ears off, but when my husband and I go to a party, I am happy to just smile and nod. My inner world is so rich that I no longer need as much contact with the outer world. I don’t feel the need to get attention or make myself known. I feel no sense of competition with my husband. I just want to be quiet arm candy. (Working on that arm candy part, though my sweet husband says I’m already there)

It’s not that I never want to speak. Sometimes I feel chatty, or I am in private with a friend, and we talk. I have thoughts and ideas I want to share, but only with certain people at certain times. Usually, I am happy to listen to my husband talk. I love that he stands between me and the great wide world. If you submit to your husband, do you find yourself feeling relieved when he takes control and handles the talking? Do you enjoy just looking pretty (whatever that means to you) and just listening? I feel so much safety and relief having a strong man who handles the talking.