So many people are against submission because feminism and rebelling against the Bible are so popular. Many women who find my Instagram assume I am dumb and abused.
When I first married my husband, submission was not a part of my life. My husband even told me he wanted to leave “obey” out of our otherwise traditional wedding vows. He did not want me to obey him.
The beauty of submission came to me in a flash from the Holy Spirit when God convicted me to wear a headcover. I had been married a few years at that point. My daughter was a toddler. God had highlighted the verses on wives submitting to their husbands and laid those verses on my heart. But I wrestled with them. Equality is everything right? I didn’t want to give up my will or concede any power. These verses made me angry at God. I didn’t understand how God could love women as much as men and yet tell us that our will must be subordinate to theirs.
In a flash, in my car at my inlaw’s house, the Holy Spirit showed me the beauty of submission. I wept. I sat in my car and wept. I felt safe, free, feminine. Everything made sense. Rapturous wonder filled my spirit. Submission isn’t bondage. It is protection. The Bible does not instruct husbands to micromanage their wives. Submitting to your husband doesn’t mean giving up everything that you love to do and have. Presumably you married a man who loves you, so you shouldn’t worry about that. What submission meant was that for the first time in my life I could let go of worry. God was in control through my husband. The big decisions didn’t fall on my shoulders.
It fell awkward, but when I spoke to my husband that night, I told him about the conviction. I received from the Holy Spirit and brought up submission. My husband never pushed the issue, though he was receptive to being the head of the house. He just didn’t want to force me, and he grew up in a house with an egalitarian marriage, so that was what he was used to. But as he read the scriptures and I told him about headcovering and my conviction on submission from the Holy Spirit, he decided to try it. We are both happy with it and haven’t looked back since. I don’t think we will ever be egalitarian again.
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