My husband doesn’t like me to wear revealing clothes and wants me to have a modest look. Some husbands like to show their wives off, but my husband takes more of the stance that I am his, and no other guys should see anything. In a way, I really like this. I don’t have to feel on display to strange men like I did when I was younger and single. The truth was that sometimes I didn’t like my revealing clothes because I felt like I was on display and I could feel guys that weren’t nice leering at me. Of course, I wanted to attract a man to marry, but I wasn’t taking the right approach at the time because I wasn’t dressing the way the kind of man I was looking for would want to see his future wife dressed. Luckily my husband accepted me for who I was at the time, but then encouraged me to be more modest after we married. So in a sense, dressing modestly can be very freeing.
But of course, I am a sinner and struggle with the flesh. I am prideful, especially as I lose weight, and I want men and women to notice if I look good. But that isn’t humble. Or pure. I need to do better for the Lord and my husband.
Bows will still be used as headcovers at certain times in certain places, but I’m going to start wearing my veils more. They are a firmer reminder that I belong to God and my husband, and some styles of veil cover low-cut necklines. They remind me to submit.
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